slowdown

January 6, 2013

amidst all of the shiny new lists, goals, and aspirations
i am adding one more to rule them all.

i just don’t want to rush anymore.  the more i think about it, the more that it seems like a large proportion of the stress/frustration/ugliness in my life is due to trying to go too fast.

frantically trying to get a job done, and not always doing it as well as i’d like.

trying to cram in too many activities into the day and therefore not enjoying any of them.

feeling like i have to do X before Y and Z, even if there’s no logical reason [and chronically putting the seemingly  ‘urgent’ before ‘important’ as a result].

NOT appreciating the small moments that make up every day — and truly every week, month, year, and lifetime.

i do not believe that i have to throw my lists out to stop rushing.  i could be wrong about this, but i think it’s more of a matter of scale and flexibility.  most of the time, i enjoy making and following through on my plans.  i like having a basic framework for the day, and a training plan, and a grocery list.  in the lab, i crave a clear agenda for each work day.  but i think i need to change my thinking about deadlines and priorities and expectations.

upcoming:

2013 goals – 1 week in.  yes i’m already figuring some things out and refining my goals.  [and yes, i’m still flossing, omdg!]

9 month update and perhaps another day-in-the-life.




yet another baby sleep question for you all!  we’re SOOOO close to a great schedule except for one thing, and i’d love some advice.  details to follow.

january recipe list new feature – a monthly list of recipes from mags/websites that i’d like to try. mostly for me but may also be useful for some others looking for inspiration πŸ™‚

studying methods for the peds endo boards.  working on making the most out of 15-30 min/day.

weekend so far:
annabel’s poppy [josh’s dad] was in town for the duke game last night [VICTORY!] and of course go in his time with miss a. as well.  she had a blast.

we even got really brave and brought her to an early dinner [with poppy] at our favorite durham restaurant, revolution.
she ate baby food and some fresh bread* and was so well-behaved it was ridiculous.  she was actually being so quiet that i thought she was getting sick, but she seems just fine today so maybe she was just mesmerized by all of the hustle and bustle of restaurant.
and BONUS:  strawberry meringue shortcake with lime curd for dessert — for the adults, anyway.
fabulous.
* i would have let her try much more, but much of what we ordered was fish/shellfish and she’s had a rash after fish in the past.  next time!

4 Comments

  • Reply Amy March 10, 2019 at 7:16 pm

    Yessssssss. Not rushing makes a world of difference, I think. Rushing makes me miserable. Of course, I am not trying to balance a career with my home life — but even so I find this to be very true, and it was true when I was working pre-kids, too. Good luck!

  • Reply oldmdgirl March 10, 2019 at 7:16 pm

    One word: Routine. If you do the same thing every day, then you get really good at doing it efficiently without rushing. There are always days that I can’t seem to get out the door no matter what, but the days that are especially bad for us are when we have a perturbation of the routine.

    I don’t think it’s possible to dispense with lists entirely given how busy we are, but I do find that I waste time making and then remaking and reprioritizing. Sometimes I do use it as an excuse to avoid real work. You’re probably better about this than I am.

    I do agree about prioritization. Life for me got so much better once I realized that I didn’t actually have to attend all the "mandatory" meetings and seminars I would get emailed about. I keep trying to remove things I don’t get anything out of from my life, and add only things that are high value. I’m not always successful, but it helps.

    I am sad about A’s fish rash! What a bummer! That shortcake looks delicious. You’re not going to be able to get away with keeping that to yourself that much longer! πŸ˜‰

    Keep up the good work with the flossing! I sometimes find that if I move the floss to the LR, or another place I like to relax before bed, I’m more likely to do it.

  • Reply Lee Becknell March 10, 2019 at 7:16 pm

    Okay, Josh looks exactly like his father!

  • Reply Rucky March 10, 2019 at 7:16 pm

    Congrats on Pump Ditchage!!!!!!! UGH, do you think there is a relationship b/w the nausea and hormones?? Or is it purely coincidental that I am also getting waves around lunchtime all week…5weeks left for me (!!!) so I know my hormones/milk supply is regulating at this point. Random nausea aside, my hunger has returned to "normal" levels this week; it had been slowly decreasing, but now is DEF different. My weight, having been stable for months, has just dropped off the last 3lbs to my BFP #. I know I will have to pay attention as all this shifting takes place!

    And I TOTALLY need to hop on the Slow Down Train with you!!!!

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