Throughout my adult life, I’ve always been an ESFJ on the Meyers-Briggs personality inventory. E stands for extrovert! Lalalaaaa, I love people!
Just kidding. I still think think the characterization is accurate. But lately I am feeling a pull towards creating more of my own space. I think it is because there is just so little solitude and/or down time in my life the way it is currently. My job is basically a serious of intimate meetings all day long, and I have to be very much “on”. Having others share so much of themselves with me is definitely a privilege, but it is also emotionally draining. And then I drive home (I do enjoy the commute these days!) and home life is just a little crazy at our current juncture. In some ways, it’s nice to feel so needed.
In others, I’m needed out.
Running helps — it’s time alone, in the quiet, often outside — definitely a respite, even if it’s at 5am. Writing or reading does too. Social media most certainly does not, and yet it’s a common escape route for me (hmmm).
I’m not sure what the answer to this — I have no plans to change my very social job, and I’m unlikely to get a night off from A&C anytime soon. I’ve considered a weekly yoga class out of the house in the evenings, but it’s hard for me to justify the expense (and fine, there’s a small guilt factor there too as I am a full-time working parent away from the home a lot already).
Does anyone else struggle with this — even fellow extroverts? Solutions? Thoughts?