I came across my 2015 post along these lines and found it quite interesting, so I figured it was worth doing a 2016 installment. Interesting how some things change . . . and some really don’t!
WHAT WORKED
1) Morning routine is slightly tweaked from 2015, but it still makes me so happy. Currently my typical AM sequence is:
– Headspace (I have completed 90 sessions to date and am really happy with this app)
– Planning / Brain dump (set up daily planning age, then spend 15 minutes or so w/ journal – setting intentions, working through challenges, etc)
– Workout
I definitely take some days off (weekends especially) but overall I find this routine is working really well for me.
2) Stationery favorites, new & old:
– Nuuna notebook!
– Sakura Pigma Micron pens (for Nuuna)
– Staedtler Triplus Fineliners (for Nuuna & sometimes Hobonichi)
– Uniball Jetstreams (for Hobonichi)
– Hobonichi Techo Cousin
– Zebra Mildliners
3) Getting out of the house w/ the kids // Playdates
Going out or doing something social is always the answer. Staying home sounds nice until the house is a wreck and everyone is going stir-crazy 2 hours in. Outings that have worked well this year:
– Play dates
– ZooMiami
– Young At Art
– Miami Children’s Museum (membership has paid dividends)
We have also been really into doing Sunday evening playdate/dinners, either with family or friends. I find that these are a great way to cap off a weekend when everyone is out of ideas for ‘activities’.
4) Book club. I finally joined one and love it! I’ve gone to ~4 sessions and have hosted one of them, and I will definitely continue next year. I like having random books assigned to me (probably would never have picked up A Fine Balance or Here I Am on my own) and the evenings are a lot of fun.
5) Date nights & a Date Weekend
Love our Saturday night date nights + we had 2 couples trips this year: a big one for our 10th anniversary, and a ~36 hour stint in Austin TX. I loved having this time with Josh just the two of us.
6) Remaining off of Facebook. I deactivated in February 2016. I do not miss it even a little bit.
7) Garmin 235. I got mine in April and wear it every day. I love it for running and for the text notifications (often prevents me from having to pick up my phone, if a text is something that doesn’t need a right-away response).
8) Trunk Club. My last shipment wasn’t terribly successful, but my wardrobe is now ~50% trunk club pieces so . . . clearly this has overall been a win.
9) Getting-Things-Done-style organization, including inbox management and a weekly review.
WHAT DIDN’T
1) No-Drama Discipline. I don’t know, I really loved the sound of the ideas in this book. But honestly timeouts (I have actually started calling them “resets” to emphasize that it’s not a punishment, just an opportunity to get emotions regulated in one’s room) seem to be a necessary thing for Annabel in particular. Hugging her and acknowledging her emotions (“I’m sorry you’re frustrated that I said you had to give Cameron’s toy back to him . . . “) just doesn’t work. I don’t know; I don’t feel like I have this arena figured out yet and maybe I never will. Just doing the best I can.
2) Running / Fitness. As I’ve written about recently, I’ve been really frustrated by slower paces recently. Not sure what my next step will be, because I still yearn for more speed! I do plan to get checked for anemia just to make sure that isn’t contributing to my super-high heart rates/inability to sustain faster paces.
3) Family dinners. Yeah, this is a work in progress. I’ve started eating with the kids more often. Sometimes it goes well. Sometimes . . . not.
4) Being zen on call. Will I ever achieve this state? I don’t know. But I really want to handle the stress of call better than I currently do.
5) Remaining off of my phone in general. I am off of FB which helps. But there is still Instagram, email, and feedly to tempt me (top 3 culprits, I guess). I’d rather not take these off my phone (especially Insta, b/c I don’t think you can post photos from the computer anyway!). But I need to be better about physically DOCKING the distracting white rectangle so that I am not tempted. I have reinstalled Moment. I want to get back to having nearly screen-free Saturdays and really trying to keep total minutes under 60 per day.
2 Comments
I agree with your take on no drama discipline. Sounds revolutionary but really doesn’t work for my kids (1 and 5 years) either. Enjoy the rest of the week!
Sophia
Really enjoyed this one! Isn’t it frustrating when you read a parenting book and you’re like, "yes…yes…I am definitely going to do this" and when you do, it doesn’t go at all how it does in the book? That has been my experience so many times that I’ve abandoned most of them. I did appreciate the thoughtfulness of the Mary Kurcinka books and the "How to Talk…" book.