We are going nowhere for winter break this year.
I know, I know — kids are not supposed to get in the way of traveling. I’m supposed to be excited about piling everyone onto a plane (and then car) and showing them the world, building family memories to last a lifetime and REALLY glamorizing that insta feed. That is the mark of a truly confident (or competent?) parent, right?
Trip to Paris with a toddler? Pourquoi pas?
Egyptian pyramids with your newborn twins? Sure!
Grand canyon with your 6 kids from toddler to teen? Awe-inspiring!
Except I’m not feeling it lately. Honestly, the thought of spending thousands of dollars for the privilege of lugging heavy things around, having stressful restaurant meals, NOT having time to work out or do anything for myself in the mornings, and having very little time to decompress has me . . . less excited to travel right now.
So for this winter break, we are staying home. And I’m okay with it. My parents are visiting us instead. And we will take that unspent vacation fund and roll it into the future so that when the kids are older (ie when we are out of toddler-hood) we will have some extra $ to dedicate to our adventures.
Alternate solutions to not-traveling:
- Leaving G home. Because honestly it’s really the toddler part that makes family travel so challenging right now. And she won’t remember it anyway. I know a lot of families do this but I haven’t been able to get myself excited about this option. Seems like it would feel bittersweet.
- Bringing our nanny or hiring a vacation nanny. Would absolutely consider this, though I think the latter option is risky — what if they just weren’t good or didn’t mesh with the family?
- Going somewhere with inclusive childcare like Bluefields or a Disney cruise (though the nursery option is somewhat limited, as are other places with drop-off childcare. Your kid has to be able to cope with being dropped off, and a runny nose can derail you.)
- Taking trips in smaller groups — actually, Annabel and I are going to be spending a weekend in NC for my sister’s baby shower! I am looking forward to this, not dreading it
We will probably employ a combination of these tactics for the next ~2-3 years, and sometimes just travel anyway, hopefully using the above tactics or minimizing the pain in other ways (staying in places with separate rooms & kitchen, picking places we can drive to for the most part, etc). But we are definitely sitting this current winter break out.
PS: Anyone try this travel booster seat? I am thinking of getting it for Annabel for the NC trip.