3 podcast episodes that helped me recently:
1- When You Just Can’t – The Life Coach School Podcast. I have mixed feeling about TLCS business model and all life coaching programs that encourage becoming a coach as a main pathway to happiness/success (because doesn’t that get a little . . . pyramid-y? Eventually one runs out of coachees . . . ). But this episode was great and came at the right time.
2- Nir Eyal: How to Create an Indistractible Family Life – Marriage Kids & Money. I felt very inspired by this. Maybe because he basically says (in other terms) that planning is the secret to life (ie: deciding when you will be on devices rather than impulsive decisions in the moment; deciding on when you will have non-device-relationshihp-focused time and sticking to it, etc). Ha! I think I will try to have him on BLP!
3- How Can I Enjoy Having Little Kids Close in Age? – 3 in 30 Podcast. I don’t really have little kids close in age anymore, but I still found the strategies in this episode valuable.
I was moved after listening to #2 and #3 to create a new House Rules document (with A’s help), particularly involving screen time.
The basic premise:
Weekdays: No screens until all homework done, both kids have read 20 minutes, toys cleaned up, showers/baths complete. Screens off at 7:30 sharp. TV shows/movies/YouTube on the big screen only (playing video games are too stimulation for weeknights and I cannot deal).
Weekends: No screens until 1:30 pm at the earliest. Screen block of 90 minutes as a ‘baseline’ but can earn more by doing various things (going to bed each weeknight nicely = 30 min; extra time spent reading or playing outside = 30 min; etc). Can also lose time – 10 minutes for each minute you are not ready by 7:36 (yes 7:36 – this is what A and I agreed upon!) in the morning for school, 60 minutes for physical sibling altercations, etc.
We will see how it goes! G is too young to entirely grasp the nuances of the rules, but gets the general premise.
I have no problem with a few hours of video games on the weekends if above conditions are met but I can’t stand that they seem to be losing the ability to entertain themselves sans screen entirely.
Final random note: My parents turned me on to Wordle, a daily word game. Fun to quasi-compete as a group to do the challenge each night. Recommend!