I can’t tell you how valuable your comments were yesterday. Even though there were differing opinions, every single one of them was valuable to me (and I hope to some of you struggling with similar issues!). I can’t tell you that last night went amazingly, but I tried the calm-but-firm walking her back to bed method and telling her each time that I would check on her in 10 minutes, and it did lead to her going to sleep on her own (me outside the door) around 9 pm, which is an improvement.
My plan is to continue to try this, work on my behavioral reinforcement tactics, and move to an expert if we am still flailing 1-2 weeks into school OR if I just feel like I would benefit from the support of a pro in my corner.
I thought it was a very valuable point that she is likely craving some special alone time with me, AND also that she needs to work on her independent play skills (ie practicing being alone without a source of easy entertainment). We definitely leaned hard on the screens this summer and I do think it may have impacted the kids’ ability to do this. (BUT it was really really nice for me. Sigh . . .)
Parenting!! There is always something new. But I want to say truly, thank you to all who weighed in. At some point I will have to create a repository of helpful posts for others to reference and yesterday’s would definitely be among them, thanks to all of you.
BACK TO SCHOOL!
And speaking of new . . . today is the first day of school! I will share pix tomorrow.
Grades this year are pre-K / 3rd grade / 5th grade. There are no big changes this year (as opposed to next year, which will be a doozy). Every kid is staying in the same classroom as last year as per the Montessori model, and 2/3 have the same teachers. I’m really excited! This household is ready for ROUTINE again. And just school / learning in general. This school year promises to be the most ‘normal’ in many years, with no exposure quarantines, no required masks, and resumption of all activities. School lunch is even back — and we are giving it a try today! We will see if the kids like it . . .
If I had to do a postmortem of the summer, I would say that 2 weeks of complete down time was a liiiiitle much for A/C post camp, and also that our vacation was a bit close to the start of school.
Next year the timing of our (likely longer) planned trip should fix some of these issues.