May 20, 2023

Day 1 . . .

Well. So far, my first day as a 43-year-old has been lovely. I do feel like birthdays can serve as a mini-new-year of sorts, or at the very least a reminder that every day is something to be grateful for. We never know how many trips around the sun we have left: I could be ~40% done with my life, or 98%. Let’s hope for the former, but acknowledge that life is fragile and precious. I am very happy to still be here, still fully mobile and able to use all of my senses!

I have enjoyed a multi-pronged celebration, including:

  • Vero Beach getaway with Josh
  • an epic massage at the Kimpton Vero Beach (where we stayed. NON sponsored obviously, just sharing. We liked it a lot and we also love Costa D’Este which is essentially next door).
  • a fancy dinner out at Cobalt (also at the Kimpton)
  • gifts from the kids/Josh and some family (totally unnecessary but also so fun!). I received a CHOCOLATE SUBSCRIPTION! How fun is that!?
  • a lovely long run (that’s pretty much every Saturday these days but today felt extra special/celebratory)
  • to come: dinner out tonight with kids

WHEW. For a prime number birthday that is a lot ๐Ÿ™‚

Slightly Self-Indulgent Reflections

I’m allowed, because it is my birthday!

Taken on the bridge during my run on Friday in Vero

1- I feel very lucky for the ways in which my life has unfolded these past 43 years (and especially the past ~10-15 or so!)

2- I feel particularly determined to: avoid digital distractions and negativity that doesn’t lead anywhere useful. (IE: I will still read an important news story even if it is depressing, but I don’t need to consume things that invite comparison and/or negative emotions — especially if they are trying to sell me something.)

3- I feel particularly determined to: seek out connections with loved ones (friends + family) as well as material/art/experiences that make me think and expand my perspective. These don’t need to be fancy (books are the most common!) but I want to give them proper weight and attention.

4- I want to take care of my body so that I can continue to feel good and be as mobile/agile/alert as possible into my 70s and beyond. I do believe this can still happen while practicing moderation, but still – I want the overarching theme for my lifestyle to be one of personal sustainability.

5- I want to continue to enjoy planning (and continue to refine my systems + help others adapt them to their needs!) and also remain open to the possibilities that are out there. You can plan A LOT but can’t predict every path life will take . . . and I suppose that is part of the fun.

Speaking of Planning: It Happened

Mostly I helped Josh plan! It was satisfying, I have to say. ALSO he told me my methods seem improved/refined from the last time I helped him organize his lists. Totally from my BLPA teaching experience!

Reviewing past lists + crafting his Q3 (quintile 3) list!

On the docket for the rest of today:

  • Library
  • Update 5 year journal
  • Help A finish organizing her room
  • Work on summer fun list (as a family)
  • Help Josh finish long term list
  • Bit of course/newsletter drafting
  • Aforementioned bday dinner

Seems like a good day.


  • Reply Lani Inlander May 20, 2023 at 10:43 am

    Happy Birthday!!! So glad you got a mini getaway in!

  • Reply gwinne May 20, 2023 at 10:58 am

    Sounds amazing! Happy birthday!

  • Reply Keren May 20, 2023 at 10:58 am

    Happy birthday !๐ŸŽˆ

  • Reply Omdg May 20, 2023 at 11:00 am

    Happy birthday!!!

  • Reply Coree May 20, 2023 at 11:10 am

    Happy Birthday! My neighbour is at least 70 and a much faster cyclist than me, and sheโ€™s such an inspiration to keep fit.

  • Reply Marjorie May 20, 2023 at 11:18 am

    Happy birthday, Sarah! What a wonderful way to honor and celebrate this milestone!

    I’m also glad I’m not the only one who finds prime number birthdays extra special. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Mind if I ask what chocolate subscription you got? That sounds like a lovely gift and I know a few folks in my life who’d appreciate that!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger May 20, 2023 at 11:25 am

      Yes! It’s this one:

      I am sure Josh did research ๐Ÿ™‚ Haven’t gotten first installment yet but it looks amazing!

  • Reply Grateful Kae May 20, 2023 at 11:19 am

    Happy happy birthday, my friend! So glad to โ€œknowโ€ you, and I hope you have a truly wonderful day and amazing next year. ๐Ÿฅณ

  • Reply Lisa of Lisaโ€™s Yarns May 20, 2023 at 11:39 am

    Happy happy birthday! I love your reflections at 43! What a gift it is to age. I have especially loved my 40s because I feel like I know what I want and who I am better than I did in previous decades.

    Enjoy your day with your family!!

  • Reply Gillian May 20, 2023 at 12:05 pm

    Happy Birthday!

  • Reply Elisabeth May 20, 2023 at 12:45 pm

    Happy Birthday! I’m a fellow May birthday-er (5/14) of a similar age (41 this year) and appreciated reading your reflections. I didn’t have any myself at my birthday, but found myself agreeing with most of yours, so I guess it’s not too late to write my own!

  • Reply Elisabeth May 20, 2023 at 2:18 pm

    Happy Birthday!

    Love all of this – especially the massage and chocolate subscription. If I could create a perfect world for myself, it would include a daily massage. And I have never heard of a chocolate subscription, but that’s brilliant! What a great idea…storing that away for future gift-giving needs.

  • Reply Coco May 20, 2023 at 2:45 pm

    Happy birthday! 43 will be great with the mindset you have. Fully agree on your reflections: self care, relationships/connection, mindful hobbies ๐Ÿ™‚

  • Reply Lori C May 20, 2023 at 2:59 pm

    Sarah – wishing you another year of joy! Your blog is a gift to others so thank you for taking the time to share your life with us! Happy bday!!!

  • Reply Sophie May 20, 2023 at 4:38 pm

    Happy birthday Sarah! What a great birthday and reflections.

  • Reply Kristie May 20, 2023 at 10:34 pm

    Happy birthday! I hope the year ahead is full of many planned and spontaneous adventures!

  • Reply Noemi May 20, 2023 at 11:33 pm

    Happy birthday! What a fabulous way to celebrate! Hooray!

  • Reply Katie May 21, 2023 at 12:25 am

    Happy birthday, Sarah!

  • Reply Daria May 21, 2023 at 8:37 am

    Happy birthday, Sarah! 43 is great :))

  • Reply Alyce May 21, 2023 at 8:35 pm

    Happy Birthday! ๐Ÿ˜Š My mother in law is a math teacher – prime birthdays are always celebrated with a little extra gusto here too.

  • Reply Natasha May 22, 2023 at 12:35 pm

    Happy birthday! Love the idea of a chocolate subscription, what a unique gift idea.

  • Reply Jenny May 24, 2023 at 11:07 am

    Happy belated birthday!!! Your day sounds wonderful. I absolutely love Lisa’s comment: “What a gift it is to age.” The 40s are a great decade, and I can tell you that 50s are even better!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger May 24, 2023 at 3:31 pm

      awwww I’m super excited to hear that!!!

  • Reply Elissa May 24, 2023 at 7:07 pm

    Happy Belated Birthday!

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