radio silence

November 29, 2012

the short version:
loved seeing family in miami.
i survived my first flight alone with an infant.  
interviewed — x2.  the shoes you all helped me pick were a success.
[hoping they brought me interview luck!]
i cannot believe we are moving to miami in 8 months.
we stuck to annabel’s routine some days, but not every day.
she didn’t sleep very well [more 5am wakeups. . .]*
currently feeling a little behind on life and totally tired.

more later!

* i love annabel so much, and on the whole she is such a wonderful, easygoing, extremely HAPPY baby.  but can i just say i die a little inside every time i hear about others her age — and much younger — going from 7p – 7a routinely?  i think i might — might — be getting ready to sleep train.

morning addendum: !!!!! OF COURSE the night i wrote this annabel SLEPT THROUGH THE NIGHT for the very first time in her almost-8-month-long life!!  asleep at 7:20pm last night and currently still snoozing.  amazing!! obviously, i’m not expecting this to become a new regular thing but MAN — gives me hope 🙂


  • Reply DVM March 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    My son is almost 10 mths and just started sleeping through recently. He had been down to (usually) just one wake up for several months, I assumed he was hungry as it was usually between 3-5 am, occasionally earlier. Although it was a decent stretch it was starting to wear on me too! I was hoping he would eventually drop it on his own as I didn’t really think I could handle sleep training… Then one night he woke up really early, around 10:30 and I knew there was no way he was hungry. But he still wanted to nurse and I realized that he was relying on nursing to fall back asleep at night (even though he falls asleep at bedtime on his own). I ended up just holding/rocking him until he fell asleep (which took 3 hrs! luckily not crying the whole time, just a bit but took that long to get into a deep enough sleep I could put him down), and planned to feed him later when he woke up….then he didn’t! And he wasn’t even hungry initially when he woke up at 7, played for half an hour talking in his crib before he was calling for me. that was when I realized he could go all night. The next night was just an hr, and since then he has slept though. So it really wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought. Hopefully that is encouraging! The next step is staying asleep all night yourself, lol.

  • Reply ADG March 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

    My 6mo old twins are like polar opposites – one sleeps 11-12 hours, usually up at 5:30a (later bedtime didn’t help push that back), and the other is up 8-10x/night. It’s brutal. He’s not up to eat either- just awake! The 7-7 thing sounds so great but I try to remember this is a phase and we’ll get thru it! He’s the type who can cry and cry too, so CIO probably wouldn’t work even if we were willing, which we’re not.

  • Reply Brittnie March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    YAY congrats!!! That first sleep through the night sure does give a glimmer of hope, doesn’t it??

    The night before we were ready to sleep train (a second time), Clara slept through the night, for the first time ever. It was so unbelievable. We still decided to go ahead with the Ferber style of sleep training that we had planned and while she can’t make it all night w/ out waking up, night have MUCH MUCH improved around our house!!

    • Reply theSHUbox March 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

      so glad to hear!!! i loved following your blog posts about it 🙂 that is fantastic that things are better!

  • Reply JT@Faux Foodie Girl March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    I ma sorry I missed you while in Miami…let me know next time – would love to meet miss A. I did the CIO technique and it worked magic for me and getting the full night of sleep so I can actually function. Good luck!

    • Reply theSHUbox March 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

      DEFINITELY next time! and in july i’ll be there for good 🙂 so we can hang out all the time!

  • Reply Chelsea March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    YAY! for A sleeping through the night. Glad the weekend went *basically* smoothly.

  • Reply Elle March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    Why did you fly alone? That must have been tough. How did you manage? How did A. fare?

    • Reply theSHUbox March 10, 2019 at 7:41 pm

      oops, didn’t see that it got cut off — i also was going to say that josh picked me up at the baggage claim in NC which REALLY helped so i never had to carry all of my stuff plus annabel.

  • Reply anon March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    It is really hard to do sleep training with a first child. Much easier the second time around. It helped me to hear that there is really nothing harmful about the child getting up through the night–it is just about what you can tolerate and function with. I held off a long, long time for the first one. My kids were generally inconsistent sleepers for their first four years and now, sleep like rocks.

  • Reply Jaya March 10, 2019 at 7:17 pm

    I totally feel you. We have a 7 month old who wakes every 1-2 hours still! BUT, he is an amazing day time baby – awesome disposition, just like A. We are sleep training on our own terms – a really gentle approach that we’ve cobbled together from all of the books/advice we’ve collected and relied on our knowledge of our little one to guide us. So far, it’s going really well! We had major digestive issues in the early months, and everything we did to cope with it now requires addressing. BUT, I think the key is to take the approach that feels most right in your heart (for us, it’s never leaving home alone to cry and knowing that it’s his responsibility to get to sleep, but ours to support and help him). Write it out, get your partner on your side (be a team!) and do what feels best for you, no matter what anyone else says. CIO just wasn’t for us (and I have no judgy feelings about others using it) and we feel so much more confident and comfortable with our own plan. Hang in there… she’s actually sleeping remarkably well for a baby her age! I think the 12 hour sleepers are definitely not in the middle of the bell curve! Use your Mama instincts and you can’t go wrong 🙂

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