First, a brief note about the previous post and the dialogue in the comments: thank you all for weighing in with largely respectful contributions. I have done some further thinking and have also now received a (very kindly worded) clarifying email and comment from the original guest poster, and I do think that some of what I took from his post was not part of the message he intended.
I don’t think my defensiveness is entirely misplaced; after all, society hasn’t progressed to the point where my choice to work wouldn’t be questioned by some. But that wasn’t really the point of his post, and perhaps I read into it more than was truly there.
I did write a counterpoint (not a ‘rebuttal’, just my own thoughts on why I have stayed in the workforce) and it is likely to run some time in the next couple of weeks; I will (of course!) direct you all over to the PoF site when it is posted.
I would also like to state for the record that:
a) I think choosing to stay home — whether it is when one’s children are young, or when they are older, or if there are no children in the home — is an absolutely respectable and perfectly reasonable choice for many people, regardless of gender. I just think it’s a choice that has to do with what makes that person happy and what kind of days they want to fill their lives with. I do not like when it is a choice that is justified “for the good of the children.” Because unless your children have unique special needs (and yes, that does happen sometimes!), the implied sentiment is that working takes something valuable and perhaps essential away from kids’ upbringing. And I know there are people that believe this, but I just don’t.
I think economics can also come into play as someone is weighing pros/cons. That’s just reality.
b) Women are judged differently than men when they make these kinds of choices. Very few people talk about what is given up when FATHERS work, do they? Flip the genders around in the article, and it probably would have been a lot more surprising of a story (husband leaves fellowship with one year left to stay home with kids!). I wish this weren’t the case.
OKAY! All that said — I hope everyone here can remain peaceful (both to me + each other!) and perhaps it is time to move on a bit.
- We had C’s bday party! It was a lovely affair at the kids’ art museum (Young at Art for the locals) and went well. It was nice to get to know some of the parents of his classmates — we still feel very new to the school social scene.
- WE SAW PARASITE. OMG intense! I liked it, though. Just had to close my eyes towards the end because I am sensitive like that.
- I did zero workouts over the weekend. BAH! Poor planning. I’m not sure if it’s getting over the virus from the week prior, but I just felt like $(*&# all weekend. Hopefully this will be a healthier week.
To be determined! Agggh! I think I will go mine some old weekly meal plan posts from LL now 🙂