Not really. But I did predict this series might be 80 days long, so . . . theoretical halfway point? [[NOTE: According to Healthdata modeling for FL, “After June 14, 2020, relaxing social distancing may be possible with containment strategies that include testing, contact tracing, isolation, and limiting gathering size.” Which would be day 91. Okay then.]]
It has actually gone . . . rather quickly. Even each day has gone pretty quickly.
And I have found myself more cheerful (ie less miserable/missing things) as the time has gone on. So that is a good thing. In lieu of my typical “5 on a Friday”, I will share 5 things I miss and 5 things that I definitely do not.
I do miss:
- Working at work. I didn’t appreciate how well my work computer/dual monitor system worked and how I could get some relative peace as long as my door was closed! It’s harder to focus at home. I’m doing it, but I have to be very concrete about which tasks I am trying to accomplish.
- Feeling good that my children are at school and being occupied in a largely productive manner while I am at work
- Seeing my patients and coworkers in person (telemed . . . is okay. And very convenient for some things! But I do miss the ‘in person’ connection, perhaps more than I thought I would)
- Having fun trips to look forward to. Not even the trips THEMSELVES but I miss that anticipation! Which is why it would be so nice to have a known “end date” to all this. Not really possible though.
- Play dates. I do miss that lovely feeling of meeting up with a friend who has similar aged kids and just bonding over the craziness of it all. Viva misses her BFF Jake (she calls him “Jakie”).
I do not miss:
- My husband working late. Honestly, having Josh home more almost cancels out all of the negatives. I’d tell him to retire but it would not be a great financial move for our family at this juncture. (I bring in more than 1/3 but far less than 1/2 of our family’s income). PLUS he likes his work and definitely helps many people.
- Date nights/extra babysitter coverage. INTERESTING and surprising finding! I sort of flipped out several months ago and arranged more weekend babysitting, but I’m not missing it at all. I used to use it to take G to MyGym (actually, I do kind of miss that!) and to work out at the gym (don’t miss that). You know what is a far less expensive babysitter? The TV/Minecraft. Yeah, I said it.
- The Kids’ Activities. OMG. I don’t miss these one bit! I will still allow then to do things they want to do, but I am not going to bend over backwards to sign them up for things unless they are particularly motivated. I do want them to get exercise, but I will drag them out for walks and have them play in the pool if they are not interested in organized activities. Maybe A/C/G will be destined to excel in some sport someday, but it probably won’t be because I put them in formal training in something at age 3. (Well, in A&C’s case it DEFINITELY won’t b/c that ship has sailed.)
- Getting up before 5. I have been getting up at ~5:30 most days (today I slept until 7!) and that has been plenty of time. Of course, that is because many of my days are more flexible and the kids are getting up later. But still, it’s nice not to be passing out every night at 9:30pm.
- Commuting. Replacing “drive 30 minutes each way” with “walk around my neighborhood for 45 min” (sometimes even while on a work call) has been an amazing exchange. I know some are mourning the lack of transition at the beginning/end of the day, but man — you can’t beat the convenience! And I am all about that.
5 Things I am Grateful For (b/c why not)
- That we can still order books and other items to be delivered (this is not true in every country – my South African friend Marcia (aka Organising Queen!) notes that in her country they can only order true essentials. This makes sense actually, but since we do not have those restrictions here I am glad I was able to at least get some new paper books to read (I really prefer paper to kindle!).
- Takeout!! Like my (online) friend Lagliv, we have developed a Saturday night takeout ritual. We are deciding between burgers and Mexican for tomorrow night!
- That thus far it appears that the local COVID-19 peak is past. HOPING this is accurate and remains true.
- That Genevieve is by far the best of my 3 at playing independently. Last night we watched Big. It was a little (a lot) over her head but she just went and played with legos and Calico Critters for about an hour until we were done. CANNOT IMAGINE my older two doing this when they were toddlers. Not sure if it’s “3rd child” stuff, her Montessori school experience (though she was only there ~6m!), or just temperament but THANK GOD.
- Our FL weather has been amazing. I’m so sorry if it isn’t true for where you are! (If it’s a consolation, our summers are the worst and well – it’s almost May!). March & April were great.