Parenting Work


November 10, 2020

Last call week of 2020 – complete

Unfortunately it rather badly – mostly because G WOULD NOT GO TO BED. I have no idea when the epic fight against bedtime ended, but I believe it was between 11 and 12. And then there was a 2 am admission to top it off, because call weeks almost always go out with a bang.

I suspect our days of naps are over; I hope that her teachers will consider the mental health of her parents and consider my request that they at least try to limit her to 1 hour.

(Notably, I remember doing the some thing with the other kids at 3.)

On the upside, I guess she’s still cute. AND no call until mid-January!

G, age 35 months:

A, age 37 months

Not staged! Just . . . very similar.


  • Reply CBS November 10, 2020 at 8:51 am

    Oh that’s awful! I got to nursery one day and found my son still sleeping in his buggy in the garden at 5pm. I knew we were in for it that night. Our nursery was really good about working with us on naps – but in the opposite direction. He tried to drop it at 2.5 and we were having nightmare evenings, and despite the fact that they are fairly free range, they really pushed a nap at our behest (one of his nursery teachers would take him out in the buggy when she went out for her lunchtime walk).

    Hopefully you can power through today and you can all have an early night.

  • Reply omdg November 10, 2020 at 9:35 am

    I am so sorry about G’s naps. I remember how much we depended on Dylan’s naps AND a reliable bedtime and wake-up time for our sanity at that age. I feel so lucky that Dylan continued napping pretty reliably until age 4 or so. However, I also remember how nice it was when she no longer *had* to take a nap, because it meant we could leave the house for all day excursions on the weekends. So, at least you have that? Now… if only there was someplace to go right now. 🙁

  • Reply Erica Sparky November 10, 2020 at 10:33 am

    B is 3.25 years old and oh my god the nap fight- i’m not sure if it’s worth it anymore! he threw an epic hour long tantrum this weekend about his nap and then ended up throwing another tantrum at bedtime. “I’m not even a little bit tired!” I have to talk to his nanny – he still naps for 2 hours and takes a while to wake up from them so i might ask her to limit them to 1 – 1.5 horus and see if that helps with bedtime.

  • Reply Jen November 10, 2020 at 10:55 am

    Oh naps and bedtime! My son is about 3.5 and we know that he needs a shorter nap now but he still definitely needs it and fights against it. We’ve had a few weekends where he resisted and we let him stay up (after staying in his room for a bit) only to have him pass out cold on the couch around 4pm which then makes bed time hard.
    Strength to all of us getting through this stage. I do enjoy the afternoon quiet time so i am sure i will mourn its passing next year when he is school.

  • Reply Lisa of Lisa's Yarns November 10, 2020 at 11:08 am

    OMG. That is a horribly brutal bedtime battle! I hope school will limit her naps! You all must be so exhausted with the late night and then the middle of the night admission. Yikes. So far our son is still a good napper (he’ll be 3 in March). He actually naps better now that he did for the first 2 years of his life. And he still goes to bed around 7. School tires him out so dang much and the time change didn’t help! I dread the day when he drops the nap, though!

  • Reply Catherine Boland November 10, 2020 at 12:34 pm

    I have triplets, so my kids had a nanny. When they were around 37 months old, I had to direct our nanny to stop letting them nap because they were up until after 11 most nights. Giving up that last nap is such a tough transition and maintaining proper sleep habits is so tough. Good luck!

    They are now 13 and I miss the days of 7:30 bedtime but enjoy the nice conversations we have.

  • Reply Nikki November 10, 2020 at 1:11 pm

    Fascinating how similar siblings sleeping and napping habits are! We have also seen this in my family – my daughters sleep and nap habits are so similar and my brother’s kids are surprisingly similar to each other too. They’re all between ages of 0 and 4.5 so this is a frequent topic of convo and analysis for us right now, haha. Hope everything goes more smoothly tonight! Today is the first day since daylight savings that my daughters (2.5 and 4.5) slept in until 7 again (their previous normal wake time) so maybe last night’s rocky night will re-set G going forward from here. Fingers crossed!

  • Reply Anna November 10, 2020 at 2:43 pm

    Hi Sarah- I listened to your podcast this morning (always listen to you and Laura on my Tuesday runs!). I’m wondering how physicians can add notes in batches. How do you remember the information about multiple patients (who you may have seen days before)?

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger November 10, 2020 at 2:55 pm

      Oh no I don’t batch notes typically (I close out charts the day of visit almost always) but actually a lot of people do, like our listener who asked the question about it (and also my husband!). And honestly … somehow you just remember when you need to! Or actually lots or times you have half finished notes that you are just polishing so the details and the plan are already in there.

      • Reply Anna November 11, 2020 at 7:44 am


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