life Parenting

Getting Way Ahead of Myself

May 11, 2022

I spent so long last night thinking about nebulous things in the future.

What if we decide to do XYZ?

What would be the financial implications of UVW?

What happens if RST doesn’t work out?

(I could probably make it through the entire backwards alphabet.)

There is plenty of good happening in the immediate + near future, and I’m going to miss it because I’m perseverating about a theoretically possible someday.

So, I will try to work on that.

Another List of Positive Things:

1- I have been reading Emily Henry’s People We Meet on Vacation on the kindle app in my kids’ bed. I was not a huge fan of Beach Read (I know many love that book, it just plodded a bit for me!) but I’m enjoying this one a lot more.

2- I am getting really excited for my college reunion! On the downside, as of now my close friends aren’t going. On the upside, I just feel like the kids will be a fun age for this and will have fun running around the beautiful campus.

3- I am into the new Arcade Fire album, WE. It’s a little obvious at times but it brings me back to 2006 in a good way.

4- I have been perseverating about vacation days but I have ~160 hours built up currently. I am definitely going to blow through some fo that this summer (TRIPS) but it’s a really nice cushion to have.

5- We have a date night this weekend at a really good place in MIA we haven’t been to since 2019. Looking forward to that PLUS more IKEA building/unpacking. Ha.


  • Reply Coree May 11, 2022 at 6:38 am

    I liked Beach Read but LOVED her new one, Book Lovers. It reminded me I need more smart women-centred fiction in my life, alongside the deeper literary fiction I gravitate to. I just read A Terrible Kindness which was really kind and sad and beautiful.

  • Reply Sara May 11, 2022 at 6:47 am

    I was so-so with Beach Read and *loved* People We Meet on Vacation. Just finished her newest and for me it fell between Beach Read and People We Meet on Vacation. Also of note: I’m like ten pages into Lessons in Chemistry and it pulled me in right away (which may not seem truthful since I only read ten pages… but it was bedtime and I’m genuinely looking forward to continuing tonight!). The writing feels fresh and different from my usual reads, in a good way.

  • Reply Keren May 11, 2022 at 8:05 am

    I’ve also been listening to Arcade Fire’s WE alongside Belle and Sebastian’s A bit of Previous which has a very appropriate name.

  • Reply Sandra May 11, 2022 at 8:09 am

    OT, but Sarah, could talk about how you fill your nanny’s time when the kids are at school or camp most of the day? I’ve just been told that even if I only need after-school care, I had better offer a full-time position if I want to find someone, and am wondering how people do that.

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger May 11, 2022 at 9:53 am

      I don’t really have a great answer – right now we pay full time for very part time work. We will see how long that makes sense- for now it still does.

      • Reply Sneakers May 11, 2022 at 10:10 am

        We also pay full time for part time work (daughter is in 6th grade). Our nanny provides flexibility for when I have international work travel (which is back again), does the driving around to activities after school, grocery shopping and errands, etc. and it is never a full day’s work. It is totally worth it for my peace of mind when I do travel – I look at the cost as backup/ insurance and it is totally worth it.

  • Reply Elisabeth May 11, 2022 at 8:17 am

    Um…how had I never heard the word “perseverating” before?! I am, sadly, very good at perseverating about many things that don’t deserve that much mental energy from my end.

    • Reply Amanda May 11, 2022 at 11:04 am

      I came to say that, too! I love new words 🙂

    • Reply Grateful Kae May 11, 2022 at 11:32 am

      What?! That’s one of my all time favorite words. I learned it when I was like, 3, because I’ve ALWAYS been someone who perseverates on things!! lol. I’m joking, of course, but it truly is the best word to describe what I tend to do. Literally, my mom will say, if I’m starting to go on about a topic that worries me, “You’re perseverating again….” HA!

  • Reply Jules May 11, 2022 at 10:07 am

    I felt the same way about Beach Read but loved PWMOV and also really loved her latest book Book Lovers. Very good escapist reading.

  • Reply Katherine B May 11, 2022 at 1:19 pm

    My 18 year old daughter bought me “Beach Read” for my birthday, completely her own idea, so I had to read it and pretty much enjoyed it, so I am very pleased to read there are two more, potentially much better, books out there for me to look out for. Only issue is I have at least a thousand other books I also want to read!

  • Reply coco May 11, 2022 at 6:08 pm

    I really like that book too… cute and sweet.

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