I am definitely embracing the above lately. I turn 42 in a mere 8 days, and if this is my version of a midlife crisis, then I feel very lucky.
I don’t really mean that I am throwing caution to the wind + cashing in all of our savings to buy a Maclaren (actually that sounds incredibly unappealing, I’d probably dent it in the first week and I’m sure 3 kids wouldn’t fit in the back). Although we did just book a Disney cruise for 2023 which is almost as expensive (not really, but $$$. Hopefully will be worth it!).
I just mean I am more and more seeing the point of eliminating things that are draining, and making thoughtful intentional choices to actively seek more of what brings me joy and satisfaction. I am doing more help-seeking than I ever have in the past. I am optimizing routines and thinking through what is really important. I am seeing more and more that every commitment is a tradeoff in terms of time + energy.
I am feeling more aware of how limited our time on earth is, and also our time as parents with kids at home.
Things that have helped with this:
1- Eliminating social media from my life. This was a very good choice for me. It has given me the time + clarity to think about what I really want and act on it rather than spending time spinning my wheels and comparing myself to others.
2- Actively taking time to reflect, with family (Josh) and with professionals.
3- Writing down what stresses me out and what I really want. Plus continuing to record gratitude + daily happenings in my 5 year journal. This does help me see how quickly time passes and things change, and serves to help me realize what the important moments of my day truly are.
On that note, I am going to embrace the next moment by going running. I cannot tell you how exciting it is to see a “6” at the beginning of these morning temps!!