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5 on a Friday: Ups, Downs, and All Around

July 7, 2023

1- C had his 1:1 day yesterday!!!!

He chose a Lego video game truck which we assembled half of together
video games + jumping
the first part of our healthy lunch
the second part. I am SO not into Cold Stone, I have to say. Something about the texture + excessive sweetness.
(And this is not me being highbrow, I looooove DQ!)
Gaming bball – he got to round 3 twice

Because he already saw Spiderman and the Flash and was kind enough to spare me Transformers (I was willing but he was being nice!) — we saw Ruby Gillman: Teenaged Kraken which was basically Turning Red + Little Mermaid mixed with a dash of Frozen. He liked it and definitely enjoyed the popcorn + Reese’s pieces.

Anyway, it was a fun (albeit exhausting) day. 2 down, 1 to go!

2- If you haven’t checked it out, the comment section from yesterday’s post is fascinating. I think many felt gratitude when they performed the $ thought experiment while others identified small luxuries that perhaps they could add now.

3- Almost done with this little business book:

Not planning to give my own two weeks notice, but it was still a useful read for anyone doing freelance/entrepreneurial work. For the most part it solidified what I have already been doing — trying things, focusing on where I feel I can be the most helpful/useful, taking chances, iterating, etc.

4- Podcast rec: 10% Happier: Nutrition Advice for People Who Don’t Want to Go on a Diet with Rachel Hartley. The guest was great, and I thought Dan Harris’ vulnerability and honesty were great. I think I largely practice intuitive eating these days. Am I fully at peace with my body’s appearance? Nope (even though I know there is no objective reason for this). But! I’m overall grateful with what it can do, and sort of at peace with not being at peace, if that makes sense. This probably could be its own post.

5- Let’s just say even though I’ve written some lighthearted posts this week, it has been A WEEK and I feel a bit low (okay, understatement, but we’ll leave it at that). However, I am ready to move on and hopefully have a more relaxing weekend.


  • Reply Megan July 7, 2023 at 2:02 pm

    C’s day looks jam packed. And Cold Stone can be great – I recommend chocolate ice cream with peanut butter add-in so it isn’t too sweet! Interested in the podcast rec as someone who has definitely gotten to a place of feeling strong and being active for mental health purposes. But anytime I focus on appearance, it becomes semi-obsessive, too much mental energy and I end up wondering if 10lbs is ever worth that?! Also recently read Fat Talk and there was SO much to think about from a culture perspective there. Def could be its own post.

  • Reply Lisa of Lisa's Yarns July 7, 2023 at 2:15 pm

    I am sorry to hear you’ve had a rough week! I hope that you have a restorative weekend ahead of you and that Josh isn’t on call!

    I am trying to embrace intuitive eating. I used to so easily stay within a certain weight range and that is no longer the case – probably because of the likely near-term onset of menopause. I’ve lost and gained the same 5-6 pounds over and over and over since becoming a mom and I don’t know if it’s worth the battle to try to get back to my previously manageable “ideal weight.” I think it probably isn’t worth it and I don’t have the mental or physical energy right now to fight that battle…

    • Reply Kate July 8, 2023 at 9:22 pm

      I’m having the same experience. In the past I didn’t have much of a challenge to stay in my ideal weight range but post kids the last few years it’s been a 2-3kg yo-yo. I also think my relationship to food has changed, I have less time to be thoughtful about what I eat and perhaps I care a bit less too. I’m not sure I have the energy to fight the battle now either.

  • Reply Gillian July 7, 2023 at 3:24 pm

    I have been trying to practice what I preach and focus on how eating certain foods makes me feel both physically (I feel sluggish and tired when I eat low quality food, so do I really want this now? Sometimes the answer is yes.). And also focus on a broader collection of data points such as blood, pressure, cholesterol, physical fitness and not just on the number on the scale. Even so, it is a work in progress.

  • Reply Amanda July 7, 2023 at 5:49 pm

    C’s 1:1 day looks amazing (and maybe a bit tiring)! So fun. I hope you get the much deserved time to rest and relax this weekend.

  • Reply Abigail July 8, 2023 at 3:36 am

    Well done on making the 1:1 day happen with all its exhausting activity whilst in the midst a A Week. Hope the weekend of restorative.

  • Reply Amy July 8, 2023 at 1:07 pm

    I’ve listened to some of those 10% happier episodes focused around health and wellness and a previous guest made a great point about intuitive eating — our signals are so often jammed or misaligned that it’s hard to know what our bodies actually need. I think practicing intuitive eating is a long process that requires a lot of honesty around what we eat and why. Also, my “intuition” (and many other people’s) could absolutely lead me straight into overweight and prediabetes.

    For those reasons, I wouldn’t say that I practice intuitive eating, but maybe I do — when I say no to a donut, or choose a cocktail OR dessert but not both, maybe I’m following my intuition. 😉

    • Reply Amy July 8, 2023 at 1:10 pm

      (And that’s not to say that I white-knuckle my way through healthy eating — I’ve learned over the years how much better I feel when I prioritize protein and fruits / vegetables. But in the food culture we live in, that requires consistent discipline and accusations of orthorexia.)

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger July 8, 2023 at 2:10 pm

      I thought the guest’s definition was a little more health-focused than my previous understanding – she discussed eating fruits and vegetables and eating in part the things that make you feel good (and I took that to generally mean nourishing and not super highly processed or sugary choices most of the time). I totally get what you are saying though – it is a very difficult balance in our culture esp if you have less time /$ at your disposal.

      To me automatically eating a donut because it’s there would not be intuitive eating 95% of the time.

      • Reply Amy July 8, 2023 at 6:17 pm

        Yeah, I agree with your last point but I think you and I might be more health-conscious than maybe the average person — I just think it is REALLY easy to talk ourselves into believing it’s our intuition and not impulsiveness / habit / deep down trying to rebel against the diet culture. Anyway, I’m looking forward to listening to the episode! Thanks for the rec.

        • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger July 8, 2023 at 6:25 pm

          Yes 100%!

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