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1 on a Friday (Check In)

January 12, 2024

(This post also contains discussion of call life so please skip if this is a trigger for you!)

Hi! It’s Friday.

I am nearing the end of a busy call week — it definitely has not been a quiet one! AND I am so happy with how I have handled it so far.

No scrolling.

okay yesterday was higher BUT most was just Haiku (EPIC’s phone app) + Google Maps

No stress shopping.

No nail biting.

Less feeling of overwhelm.

Less reactivity (not NO reactivity, I’m still human lol — but less).

Do I expect to be able to handle every single call week or stressful situation this well? Nope. BUT I am encouraged 🙂 And now I know that it is possible for me.

I have also been tracking lots of things (time, sleep, media) and it has been helpful and interesting. So maybe more on that later.

For brevity’s sake (need to go see a consult), I will share just 1 thing: via Cup of Jo, The One Question I Ask My Kids After School.

Her question: “How was your day on a scale of 1 to 10?”

I tried it and . . . indeed it is an excellent conversation starter.

(G has yet to report anything under 10/10, but at least with the others it’s helpful! Not that I mind hearing that her day was 10/10!)

My week has not been 10/10, but honestly it’s been decent and I am happy with that!


  • Reply Gillian January 12, 2024 at 4:41 pm

    I tried this too. My 8 yo gives numbers like 5.432. My 16 yo asked if he was reciting the digits of pi.

  • Reply Alyce January 12, 2024 at 9:36 pm

    I asked Simone how her day was from 1 to 10. I don’t know whether she really understood me, but she answered quickly and confidently that it was a 10. Despite questioning her understanding, I found it deeply heartwarming.

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger January 13, 2024 at 10:20 am

      awww I LOVE that!!!!

  • Reply Coree January 13, 2024 at 3:33 am

    Yay for the home stretch of call!

    We do “3 positive things” from our day as T has been having a rough time with his bestie, and will just list grievances if we ask a more generic question. Sometimes, we get “nothing…” but can normally persuade him to think about a few things, even if it’s just school lunch (I’m forever grateful he loves the free school lunch, free in Scotland through primary school).

  • Reply hannahviolin January 13, 2024 at 10:24 am

    My dad used to ask us, did you learn anything in school? And so often I couldn’t think of anything specific, so I’d say no, and then he’d say, well, why did you go?

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger January 13, 2024 at 11:19 am

      hahahahah that is funny!

  • Reply Elisabeth January 13, 2024 at 11:52 am

    I want to start doing this. We used to do lowlights, medium lights, and highlights, but haven’t been doing it as routinely. 1-10 scale is even easier and my kids LOVE to rank things.

  • Reply Sarah January 13, 2024 at 12:46 pm

    I try to be empathetic and understand others’ POV and use my imagination but I am struggling to determine what feelings someone else’s call week could trigger. Does a person just not want to read about how stressed their doctor might be if they call in with an emergency question? Serious question, not meant from a judgmental perspective. I think it’s interesting to read about, and I hope I can learn more about why someone else might not like to!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger January 13, 2024 at 2:25 pm

      Essentially yes. I don’t want to upset anyone but I still want to share my story so this trigger warning feels like a reasonable thing to do 🙂

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