COVID19 Weekend

Day 83: Weekend (J-Call)

June 6, 2020

Yesterday was . . . better. I did end up going to work (thank you, Chelsea). And I a) got more done and b) had some good conversations with Black coworkers about current events and c) felt more positive about my job than I have in a while. SO: that is good.

Honestly, I think I need to get over the idea that my kids are somehow better off if I work from home (or, to flip this, ‘deprived’ if I go to work and leave them with our nanny). Yes, it’s nice to put G down for her nap. And I know many people are able to focus at home and make great use of kitchen access / no commute time / no coworkers coming around to ask random questions (I’m basically the unofficial IT department of my office for the other physicians). BUT — I am better off working at work. I just am. And I have a lot of people depending on me to continue to get my job done, and to do it well.

Furthermore, our nanny is perfectly willing *and* capable of handling the kids at home. And whoever pointed out that she may actually prefer me out of the way (easier to maintain authority/control that way!) is probably right though I know she would never tell me that. (Yes, we gave her a significant raise as soon as schools closed. She is also working fewer hours now than she used to back in our Miami Beach days when she was home with two tiny ones).

On that note . . . she is also capable of reading and leading the kids through some educational programming (great suggestions, by the way – thank you!). And school is OUT so the pressure to do as much is off, anyway.

Yes, COVID-19 is certainly still around (see below; not terribly encouraging recent FL trends). But if I have to be in the office 2 days/week anyway, 2 more probably isn’t going to make a big difference. Especially since those 2 I mostly stay in my own (tiny) little zone.

At least the deaths are down.

ANYWAY. All that said – it is a new day, and I feel a little better. I am solo parenting (mostly) this weekend as Josh is on call. My calendar always says “J-Call” on those days and sometimes I dread them, but as the kids have gotten older they are slowly improving. I am determined to get the kids outside for the morning and then spend the afternoons relaxing (nap/screen time combo for the win). My own to-do list includes:

Plus “Leg Day”. Doable hopefully . . . AND IT’S TAKE OUT NIGHT. Already excited.


  • Reply sophia June 6, 2020 at 8:23 am

    I love your honesty about liking to be out of the house for work. I go into the clinic one day a week right now and it’s my most productive and least stressful day. I once tracked kid-related interruptions while working at home and it averaged q12 min.

    • Reply Omdg June 6, 2020 at 12:30 pm

      I agree — being able to go to work in the operating room has definitely helped keep me sane these past few months. Totally get where this is coming from.

  • Reply Heather J June 6, 2020 at 9:02 am

    We started back with our full outpatient practice a few weeks ago and it has been life-giving to be out of my house and able to work without family interruptions. Our kids love us and are so fortunate to have other, wonderful caregivers, too. Enjoy the time!

  • Reply Grateful Kae June 6, 2020 at 9:09 am

    I can totally see how going in to work could be more productive for you. When my kids were a little younger, like maybe 5 and 7, or 6 and 8, one summer my mother-in-law came from Mexico for the whole summer to basically babysit in my house while I worked from home.

    I remember struggling so much with the boys still coming to look for me all the time, or if I could overhear stuff happening, I had a hard time staying out of it. Every quick “break” would turn into 20 minutes because…I don’t even know, but it did! It was just hard. In our case my MIL couldn’t drive here either, so they were ALWAYS around. Anyway, I think in your case going to the office sounds smart. Especially with your kids still on the younger side. Now mine are 10 and almost 12 and I don’t usually have any major problems working from home even without any childcare of any kind.

  • Reply ehartung7 June 6, 2020 at 1:04 pm

    I think that is awesome! Also as a nanny I totally think that resonates. It can be harder when the parents are around as well. I just want to say you are doing great!

  • Reply Coco June 6, 2020 at 4:49 pm

    I am exactly the same. I am better mom when I’m at work. hahahaha…. i think the girls like to have me at home all the time because i’m their main emotional and physical support, but I just don’t function well if i’m being interrupted all the time, which somedays ends up stressed or yell at my girls, not a good outcome.
    So, I’m hoping we are allowed to go back to office soon.

    love your last task “nap” 🙂

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