Thank you for all of your comments yesterday — I guess the one thing we can all agree on is the general suckiness of all of this.
I think some very important points you all made are:
- The GUILT/PANIC factor comes into play for some of us — including me — because the entire situation is different. From Maria: “I think I totally understand how you feel and have had similar feelings. It’s just… the balance is totally different now. Before, I would work while the kids were at their loving preschool, playing outside, learning, making friends. Good for everyone. In the fall, I may have a kindergartener who is home half the time maybe doing some zoom calls and worksheets? There is a logistical childcare question to figure out if that’s the case, but also, would I rather be the one to (take time off and) homeschool him those days? Try to make it a great year for our family instead of just making it through? I doubt that is what I’ll end up doing but having those thoughts for sure.”
- BUT, I probably shouldn’t kid myself that online school for the kids – esp C – would be all the much better with me at the helm. From Marina: “I hope your and other districts go back to full time in school, but if not, then I would lower your expectations about what the year will be and try not to assume that you being home will suddenly make this situation better.” From LN: “Think of it this way, Sarah. You’re not a teacher (though you may have taken on some teaching/ educational tasks at work). Even if you were a teacher there’s no guarantee you would have the exact skillset to meet your children’s school needs. And that’s fine! It is SO unrealistic to expect that every parent is also the perfect teacher. Quitting your job to devote yourself full-time to their education wouldn’t magically turn you into a combination of Ms. Frizzle and Mr. Rogers.” HAHA. That would be a great combination though.
- There ARE some things that might help that don’t involve, you know, throwing my entire career out the window. Even if I’m not the “breadwinner”, my job is important too — to me and others! (Also, just to clarify – I do not want to leave my job whatsoever in any permanent fashion. I was more fantasizing about a sabbatical of sorts which by the way is not a thing in healthcare (or most career tracks). It’s notable that I’m pretty sure if I left my current positions it would not be easy to get the same ones back, especially the leadership/GME roles I have. That said, I also don’t think I’d be un-hirable!)
- Options that I will strongly consider, depending on circumstances: Option 1: sending G to her private Montessori school (if open for live sessions; was planning on doing that anyway 8-3 next year!). Option 2: Sending G to daycare if her school is NOT open (didn’t think of that, but it’s an option – so that our nanny could focus on the other 2). Option 3: Sending C to G’s school if it’s open. Option 4: Hiring a tutor (probably a college student) to basically come do online school with the big kids on the days that they are home so our nanny can focus on G.
All cost $ (but reasonable amounts; far less than my fantasy sabbatical!). All would be an improvement over this past spring.
Podcast rec: I really like how Happier has handled recent events, and this week’s episode was no exception with guest Sofy Solomon. ALSO I now have to add Deacon King Kong to my reading list. SO MANY BOOKS NOT ENOUGH TIME. Hence my new phone background: