I owe you all a more detailed recap of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t with Your Kids, but two lessons from the book have been key for me.
1 is to identify your triggers. Mine include:
being overly tired (me or the kids)
a cluttered messy environment
too much stimulation (attempt to listen to a podcast while the kids are playing – sadly, it doesn’t really work unless they are really engaged independently and I am in another room)
The other is to not attempt to multitask when you are caring for your children.
This one is heartbreaking, in a way, because it essentially means that for all of the hours that my 3 kids are awake and I am the primary parent then I WILL NOT GET TO REALLY DO ANYTHING ELSE. Yes, I get time with my kids and that is great. My kids themselves are great! And I do cherish many of those moments. But sometimes on a weekend I just want to read novels and learn to hand letter and take long walks listening to Michelle Obama’s new podcast. And that’s too bad, because it’s impossible right now. (Browsing instagram and seeing how people without kids spend their weekend days = NOT HELPFUL, and also possibly a trigger).
Now, there are things that can be multitasked, in my opinion and experience. Cleaning up. Folding laundry. Listening to a relaxing album (ahem Taylor Swift). But things like checking email / responding to blog comments, working out, chatting with friends, reading — all of these require concentration, and if I’m with A/C/G, trying to do those things only leads to frustration. On my end and theirs.
I am sure that if I had fewer kids or they were older, I might be able to get around this one more. But for me right now this is true.
This is why I get up at 5 am most days. It’s also why I let A&C have screen time while G naps. ~5-7am and ~1-4pm are MY HOURS, and they are never enough but they are 5 hours and that’s objectively not too terrible.
Okay! Coming your way tomorrow & next week: BLP Ep#2 recap, August Newsletter, habits series continued including my long overdue fashion post.
PS: Tropical Storm Isaias thankfully has not been too bad. We got outside yesterday before the bigger rain bands hit and G had a blast jumping into puddles. We were even able to do takeout night last night (Josh picked up). WHEW. Some traditions are sacred.
PPS: Keep the planning questions coming! I am collecting them all and can’t wait to use them in the first Q&A episode!!