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Current Situation

December 26, 2020

I was going to write a post filled with self-pity about how all of the fun I had planned for Camp Mommy could no longer happen. Actually, I did write it. But I just deleted it.

Because we are still okay, and every day that this remains true is a gift, a lucky break, and whining about not being able to go to the zoo seems a little bit inappropriate and a little bit gross.

Yes. There is COVID in this house. All 3 kids tested positive on Monday (yep, 3 out of 3. It felt oddly . . . symmetric receiving positive result after positive result). Josh and I were initially negative but have second tests pending. And so far, we are all okay. No scary symptoms. The kids have been largely asymptomatic. If we hadn’t known about our exposure, I never would have thought to test them. Seeing this unfold in real time has me truly understanding how this disease spreads. It’s NOT Ebola; that’s part of the problem. Some people can walk around with it and spread it and you would never know.

do they look like 3 little vectors?

Our initial sick contact is doing okay, though they were symptomatic (but not critically ill). I do not know the direction of transmission or where the kids got it (or who got it first). COVID is scary and has harmed so many. But so far, we are lucky. I truly hope our luck continues.

So, yeah. Camp Mommy is not going to be the same. We are not going anywhere. We are not going to have outdoor playdates. Things will be different for a bit. But we are so far doing okay, and that’s all that matters.

To those wondering if we have masked/distanced from the kids – no. We briefly considered wearing masks in the house (mostly Josh, who had not been as exposed initially) but then just felt it was futile and probably way too late. Hoping that perhaps the vaccine dose we each got might be a bit protective even early on.

More to come; back to the goals series tomorrow. Have to keep focusing on other things while we wait. One day at a time . . .

26 Comments

  • Reply Meaghan December 26, 2020 at 3:50 pm

    Oh, wow! I can’t believe all three have it. My son (9) lost his sense of smell on Wednesday night, but we couldn’t get a virtual visit/test until today, because of Christmas. I’m grateful that is his only symptom, but we have not masked/isolated either, because of course it was too late, but now I have a sore throat. 🙁 I hope you guys stay healthy!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger December 26, 2020 at 3:59 pm

      ugh. I hope you do too. <3

  • Reply Gwinne December 26, 2020 at 4:34 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear this and appreciate your willingness to share the news. I hope the kids remain healthy….

  • Reply Lindsey December 26, 2020 at 5:01 pm

    Wow—my youngest just recovered but my other two and my husband and I didn’t get it. In a way it will be a relief the 3 will have a period of immunity.

  • Reply Marjorie December 26, 2020 at 5:06 pm

    I am so sorry that the kids have it! I’m glad that they’re [mostly] asymptomatic. :hug: Here’s hoping you and Josh test negative this 2nd go round!

    My husband (a frontline healthcare worker) received the 1st dose of the Moderna vaccine on Wednesday, and I was more emotional about it than I had anticipated. (I wasn’t there when he received it and didn’t even know he was scheduled for it until he texted me a photo of his vaccine card!) It was a clear signal that things are starting to turn, and although the end is still months and months away, there IS an end, and it’s not that far away.

  • Reply Erin R December 26, 2020 at 5:18 pm

    We had 12 family members with Covid in November & December and it was fascinating how each of them got it (always through an indoors, unmasked situation, several from daycare as the first exposure) and to see how each case was different even among families. Thankfully no one had any severe symptoms and the only lingering effect has been on taste/smell so far. Hope you are all mild cases!

  • Reply Sam December 26, 2020 at 5:42 pm

    I hope you all continue to stay healthy and have mild cases. Hopefully writing the post was cathartic–sometimes I think it’s helpful just to write things down to get them out of our head.

  • Reply Gillian December 26, 2020 at 5:50 pm

    Oh goodness! Glad everyone is doing well so far. Hang in there! Who knows maybe that vaccine is helping you out.

  • Reply Sarah Byrne December 26, 2020 at 6:11 pm

    Glad everyone is feeling okay. Thank you for sharing your experience.

  • Reply Lisa of Lisa’s Yarns December 26, 2020 at 6:12 pm

    Crazy that all 3 tested positive. We’ve had cases at daycare where the kids tested positive but the parents didn’t, or vice versa. It’s such a weird virus. I also have a coworker who had all the telltale symptoms including loss of taste and smell as well as lab work that led the ER doc to say he had Covid – but he had 2 PCR tests and both came back negative. But he is presumed to have it and then ended up with pneumonia. And he is one of the fittest, most healthy people I know. It’s so interesting how some get so sick and some have no symptoms. I hope you and Josh stay healthy. I would have abandoned wearing masks, too. Just seems futile and you’d have to take them off to eat anyways. I guess it is good that you are off work and didn’t have to scramble to cancel patients, etc. But it still sucks. I hope the vaccine gives you guys some protection!!

  • Reply sbc December 26, 2020 at 6:24 pm

    Hope all of you continue to be all right! Are there studies you can be in for exposure after a single dose of vaccine?

  • Reply Stephanie December 26, 2020 at 6:37 pm

    I hope everyone’s symptoms remain mild and you and Josh stay healthy!

  • Reply Marci Gilbert December 26, 2020 at 6:40 pm

    Oh no! I hope everyone continues to feel good.

  • Reply Kersti December 26, 2020 at 6:44 pm

    Best wishes to your family!

    On a lighter note (and maybe a planning question to distract you) have you seen the planning stuff at Levenger? They have some really unique products! I’m thinking of trying out their daily notecards to complement my electronic planning.

  • Reply Erica December 26, 2020 at 8:47 pm

    I hope your whole family, including the three little vectors, continues to be alright, and that you can start the new year as healthily as possible.

  • Reply Irene December 26, 2020 at 9:44 pm

    I’m so, so sorry. The waiting to see must be so hard. I know you are not religious and I am not really these days but I said a prayer for your whole family tonight anyway. I will be thinking of you and hoping you are safe and manage to stay sane.

    We are not dealing with illness but I am finding every holiday so disappointing anyway as time ticks on. I was sad Easter was pretty boring earlier in the pandemic but it felt like other missed occasions- we have not celebrated things in the past because we were sick or something. But now it’s a whole year of every major holiday being ruined to some extent and I’m struggling that I can’t fix it for my kids. And then I also feel like a failure for not being able manage more cheeriness for my kids. I feel a more acute sense of loss over these times that would normally be special. Anyway all this to say I do feel it’s ok to mourn the loss of small things, like the chance to do small special things with your kids while they are home, even while acknowledging how lucky you are to be healthy. I’m incredibly lucky compared to do many people. I do know that. I also really want to hug my mom again and let her hold my little guy before he’s too big to be held and I cry whenever I think about it too much. God what a year.

  • Reply Elizabeth December 27, 2020 at 12:52 am

    Thinking of you and your whole family, Sarah, and sending you a big hug. I hope everyone continues to feel fine and you and Josh don’t end up with it. You are a great Mom and Camp Mommy will be memorable and fantastic despite these circumstances. You’ve got this!! And a little extra screen time isn’t the end of the world, either—you get some reading time while they are quiet; it’s a win-win. Good luck to you!!

  • Reply alexis December 27, 2020 at 1:13 am

    I’m so sorry. I got covid (am an ER nurse) after canceling my vaccine appt three times. I’m so annoyed because I was just fine for 10 months. It’s crazy and definitely put a damper on my holiday. Also, I have had incredible fatigue for 11 days and just want to return to work. 🙁 the only positive is that maybe I can donate my plasma to 32 people. We will get through this.

  • Reply CBS December 27, 2020 at 4:06 am

    Oh my goodness, what a whirlwind! Glad the original sick contact is doing well and the kids appear unphased by it, and hoping the vaccine will have given you both some immunity. We’ve managed 4 months without having to self-isolate but now everything is closed until the 18th, so hoping that means a reduction in cases and a greater percentage of the elderly and medical workers vaccinated.

  • Reply Omdg December 27, 2020 at 8:31 am

    You guys will be fine. I hope being quarantined is not torture! Happy to recommend movies if you need suggestions. Also I hope your nanny is ok. 🙂

  • Reply Jessica December 27, 2020 at 12:09 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear that. Well wishes for a speedy recovery and remaining asymptomatic! You have been such a joy to all of your readers during this whole pandemic, thank you and our thoughts are with you.

  • Reply Melissa W December 27, 2020 at 1:57 pm

    My pediatrician explained to us that it’s very difficult for the littlest kids to spread covid, because they can’t expectorate enough to give it away…even though they can get it themselves. Hopefully this hypothesis proves true in your house and that you and Josh stay healthy. 🙁

  • Reply Grateful Kae December 27, 2020 at 4:32 pm

    Oh no!!!! Ugh. Hoping you and Josh stay well, and that the kids remain symptom free. That’s crazy though…from what you post on your blog at least, it doesn’t appear that you guys go hardly ANYWHERE in public at all/ don’t seem to have really any social interactions currently….so I was surprised to hear you guys even got it at your house! I bet it feels a little….annoyingly ironic to get covid at home somehow right as you guys got the vaccine and right after you didn’t go on your end of year Disney World trip (presumably to avoid exposure to covid)….Ugh. Thinking good thoughts for you all!!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger December 27, 2020 at 6:39 pm

      that’s pretty true, but we both go to work in person (me = 2-3x/week, Josh = daily) and see patients and interact with staff. we have 3 kids which means 3 classrooms, plus one nanny. And we were letting cameron play soccer outside; the kids did not wear masks while playing. Josh and I both kind of regret that now though we do not know if he got it there.

  • Reply Hope December 28, 2020 at 8:06 am

    So sorry to read about your situation. I hope you all stay healthy and that’s great that you and your husband both received your first doses of the vaccine. I am a dedicated listener of Best Laid Plans which I love, but do not read your blog on a daily basis. However I love to listen on the Show Notes page. I agree that people can have COVID and be asymptomatic so speculation can be a waste of time. It’s better to stay positive. It is what it is. Prior to masks and restrictions people went to work sick prior to mid March exposing others. Not everyone gets it.

  • Reply Emma December 28, 2020 at 9:53 am

    So sorry to hear this! I hope everyone continues to do well

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