life Planners

5 on a Friday: Almost Summer Edition

June 18, 2021

1- After some discussion of single vs solo parenting around here, Gwinne (who describes herself as a single mother by choice) wrote two posts on the topic: here and here. (She is an excellent writer, so if you do not already read her blog, I highly recommend checking it out.)

I am relieved to note that I will not be solo parenting this weekend (though I will be the next!).

2- I feel like our summer begins in earnest this weekend. Camp starts Monday! All 3 kids will be at the same one for the next two weeks and I am somewhat mad at myself for complicating things after that. Annabel had an absolutely wonderful time at horseback riding camp (Condee Farm – which is actually owned and run by Josh’s aunt!). She now wants to do riding lessons regularly so I think we will add that into our routine for the next school year.

3- After eschewing these Clean Color Dot pens for quite some time (they do have bleed-through tendencies and they do NOT play well with Tomoe River paper in my experience) I have found great use for them in the Full Focus Planner, because if they do bleed through it’s just onto the back of the previous page which I’m already done with anyway!

Today. At least I am pretty confident “5 on a Friday Post” will be checked off!

4- Today’s strength workout: 20 minute Strength for Runners + 20 minutes Arms/Shoulders. If I’m lucky, the kids will be asleep until I’m done (~7:10). I had a great tempo run Wednesday but then did nothing yesterday due to my headache.

As noted previously, I’m doing Daniels Running Formula to try to get some running speed back. I would love to run a 5K at closer to 8 min/mi pace (my last one was ~9 min/mi, and that’s a BIG difference!). My current ideal workout schedule is this:

M: shorter easy run with strides

T: 30-40 minutes Peloton strength (mix of strength for runners workouts + other)

W: threshold run #1 (this past Wednesday’s example: 10 min warmup, 2 miles at threshold pace — 9:16 + 9:25/mi, 2 min recover, 1 mile at threshold pace — 9:25, cooldown).

R: 30-40 minutes Peloton strength (maybe throw some barre in there)

F: threshold run #2 (this week I had prescribed 2 x 1 mi + 2 1K at threshold

S: longer run (40-50 min)

S: yoga (eventually would love to go do this in a studio!)

HOWEVER that is ideal and most weeks are not ideal and I miss 1-2. This week I am a day behind due to the epic ~36 hour headache I had.

5- That said . . . IT IS GONE NOW! Whew. Happy Friday!


  • Reply Gwinne June 18, 2021 at 7:30 am

    Ugh…I’m sorry about headache. The worst.

    Thanks for the shout out!

  • Reply Anna June 18, 2021 at 8:16 am

    interesting, thanks. So yoga is your “rest” day?

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger June 18, 2021 at 8:27 am

      Yoga and typically whichever day or days I end up skipping 🙂 for example I did nothing yesterday. If I am extra tired or feeling off i do not work out.

  • Reply Elisabeth Frost June 18, 2021 at 1:29 pm

    I think Gwinne is spot on about temporal vs. emotional challenges of single vs. solo parenting. I think resentment (an emotion) is the biggest challenge for me. I remember being in the ER with my son as a toddler; he had been battling a sustained fever for almost a week that we just couldn’t get under control. I sent a picture of him to my husband…who happened to be at a hockey game with a work client. I had spent the day going to doctor’s offices – who sent me to the ER; I had to scramble to find emergency childcare for my daughter, and drive through a dangerous snow storm to get to the ER. And my husband was eating hotdogs in an arena.
    While I feel like long term the pressures are less on temporary solo parents, the seed of resentment is what makes it especially challenging. If you’re a single parent you might go through all the same things, but you can’t silently seethe that your partner is getting room service in the Bahamas on a work retreat while you wipe vomit up off the floor…

  • Reply Jo June 18, 2021 at 11:20 pm

    I think a lot about ‘solo’ parenting v. ‘single’ parenting. My perspective is influenced by my role as a frequent solo parent (a husband who works out of town up to 12 weeks at a time) and my profession as a family lawyer who sees the realities of single parenthood on a daily basis. While solo parenting is, no doubt, a challenge, I recognize the benefits I have. I am still a dual income household, I am not in conflict with the other parent, I have a confidant and ally in parenting, even if they are not present to be hands-on daily.

    I love hearing from you, as well as your followers, on these topics. Happy Friday!

  • Reply Sharon June 20, 2021 at 4:06 pm

    Speaking of Tomoe River Paper…. Have you heard the rumors around that it may possibly be discontinued!!?? Oh, and I wanted to ask… I know you are loving the thicker brighter paper these days, but are you still using the hobonichi accessory notebook the same way you used to? I have really loved using one since I learned that from you! I use mine in a different way, but it’s amazing how much you can fit! And so slim it’s almost unnoticeable tucked into almost any other notebook!

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger June 21, 2021 at 6:12 am

      You know what – I don’t!! I feel like I have slowly let Apple Notes take over a lot of what thatt notebook used to do for me, honestly.

      And i had NOT heard that rumor!!! That would be SO sad!

  • Reply Amy O June 21, 2021 at 5:52 am

    Hi! I can’t seem to find this in any other posts—what planner is this? I like the set up of this page.

    • Reply Sarah Hart-Unger June 21, 2021 at 6:11 am

      That is the Full Focus Planner ! (not the bold – the regular 🙂 )

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