I had a good day yesterday. On paper it was rather busy and I ended up fielding bedtime solo which was a bit more complicated since A had gymnastics with a 7 pm pickup.
But for whatever reason, I felt calm and maybe the kids followed my lead. I did not feel victimized just because I had to do bedtime alone (Josh got home after 10 pm, apparently some cases went obscenely late?). I had our nanny stay so that I could pick A up solo from gymnastics and enjoyed that 1:1 ride home with her. I also found myself appreciating little things the kids were doing, like A being able to manage her shower / bedtime readiness routine without any prodding and C being willing to lie on his bed alone and read while I finished putting G to bed.
(The latter might not sound big, but it is. Trust me!)
I also wonder if some of this calm is just feeling like I have more bandwidth overall. Wednesday and Thursday are my own this week and I don’t even have many recording sessions scheduled, so I get to truly have unstructured time to work on my own stuff. When I know every second isn’t promised to someone else, it makes the busier moments feel more doable.
Anyway. I feel like I have been negative about my transition feelings lately so I wanted to share some positive!
I texted Kelsey 30 seconds after reading her post yesterday! In it, she describes a spreadsheet she has coined “The Years Are Short” – aptly named, because it’s true. You can view the spreadsheet on her post, and it includes the kids’ grades, everyone’s ages, and major milestones like retirement eligibility and when their house would be paid off!
It reminds me of my own 5 Year Family Travel Plan (an Apple Notes doc with 5 years of possible travel ideas with the kids’ ages included) – but better. Maybe a little more emotionally complicated (emphasizes how finite our time with kids at home really is!) – but it’s reality and worth being aware of and reflecting on.
In my travel folder, there is a note for each upcoming trip with details (flight, hotel, rental car info, restaurant and activity recommendations, reservations, etc). I clear this out and archive old trips so the ‘filing cabinet’ stays manageable.
Anyway I am SOOO taking this up a level and making a sheet like Kelsey’s. (Probably in Apple Notes as well because that is just where documents like this tend to live for me!).
PS: Inn at Little Washington definitely did not happen in 2022 (we had this planned as a 40th bday trip for me in 2020, oh well), but Colorado did!