My two big kids have decided not to return to sleepaway camp this summer.
They most certainly did not have a bad time when they went. Honestly, they seemed to be thriving and I didn’t get a single negative letter. Visiting day was a bit of a debacle (Josh had COVID) but they were proud to show off the campus, from the ropes course to the Gaga ball court.
But Annabel in particular has decided she doesn’t want to go back, and Cameron doesn’t want to go without her, which seems understandable. I struggled with this for a few reasons: a) I had already paid and made a PLAN, kids! PLANS ARE IMPORTANT! b) I did think the experience was a positive one for them. They came back more mature, independent, and confident. Also c) some of my friends who really love camp for their kids felt I should push.
All that said – I did push for a bit, or at least I pushed A to really think about it. And she did, and she doesn’t want to go, and after a brief internal mourning period, I have decided to respect that and move on. So — day camp it is! Ultimately I decided that this is an area where I do think kids deserve some autonomy, and cajoling/pushing/forcing them out the door did not seem right.
I did make them each sign a contract that they would attend day camp without complaint (though I will allow them to weigh in on which ones as long as I don’t have to do 23985 dropoffs), spend time reading and without screens over the summer, and NOT complain about doing a stint with childcare while Josh and I get away for a couple of days.
So, sometimes plans change. At least this particular change will come with a financial benefit. I’m not terribly sad about that! ALSO, I told them they can always revisit sleepaway options in the future. A informed me she might be interested once it is “more like college.” Ha.
In entirely unrelated news . . .
I made this soup (Chicken & Orzo) on Sunday night and the kids went nuts over it. It was seasonally appropriate if you ignore the fact that it was 86F outside while I was making it.
AND, I’m enjoying working on creating my 2023 goals lists. I did a review of 2022 yesterday in prep for our annual BOBW goals episodes and I have to say it was a great year. There were many goals I didn’t achieve entirely or perfectly, but often I came close and that was more than good enough. Good thing I am not a perfectionist 🙂 Life is easier and more enjoyable that way . . .