First, thank you for your comments and discussion yesterday. I especially appreciated the gentle tough love about perhaps not needing to go back to doomscrollng CNN (it’s a choice I get to make!), as well as the reference to Oliver Burkeman’s recent interview with Gretchen Rubin that commenter Mrs. Candid referenced, which I have re-posted below:
“Q : Is there a particular motto or saying that you’ve found very helpful?
A: I love basically any quote that points to the way so much of our unhappiness arises, not from what’s happening, but from our insistence that it ought not to be happening, or our refusal to acknowledge that it actually is happening. Charlotte Joko Beck says “What makes it unbearable is your mistaken belief that it can be cured.” Mel Weitsman says “Our suffering is believing there’s a way out.” Sam Harris points out somewhere that the problems most of us have to deal with are bad enough without the internal demand we put on top of them – that we ought not to have any problems at all.
Life certainly brings plenty of sadness and difficulty. But it’s so much worse when you mistakenly believe you’re entitled to some other kind of life, one that would be entirely sadness- and difficulty-free – because then every ordinary setback becomes a kind of terrible insult and an outrage, something that shouldn’t be happening. There’s vast freedom and empowerment in accepting the truth that this life, with all its irritations and annoyances, is the only one we’re going to get a shot at.”
So, thank you. There is plenty to be anxious about. In fact, one could choose to spend the entire day being anxious. But one could also be accepting (and even grateful) for what we currently have. Will keep this in mind today.
Part 2: Body
So! I am planning on a 3-part series: Mind / Body / Soul.
Let’s cut to the chase: bad eating choices, fewer steps, and probably more running (vs strength work) plus the miraculous phenomenon that is aging have all come together in an undesirable way. I am wearing just a fraction of my wardrobe that fits comfortably. I own this, it is not mysterious.
Some of it (ice cream on vacation!) was totally worth it.
Some of it (crappy work lunches) was just poor planning and totally not.
I am ready to get my #($*@ back together. I did not have pandemic weight gain in 2020; instead, I channeled a lot of my angst into walks and the 80 Day Obsession (which was great!). I was mostly at home, which helped with my eating choices during the day.
I was doing more running over the spring and into summer but you know what? I may be over it (again). It’s SO HOT, it just makes me super-hungry, and I am not seeing amazing improvements in speed, either, despite reasonable efforts. I’d still love to train for a faster 5K but perhaps that can be my winter sport. Right now, with months of heat still ahead, I’m jumping off the running train and back into strength mixed with some HIIT, and hopefully some more walking again.
A reader recommended Sydney Cummings, and I really love her workouts! I started doing a few one-off ones randomly, but decided to start Fit and Strong at Home (one of her programs from last year – probably her easiest, or one of her easiest!). It’s entirely free (Playlist Here). Today is Day 3 and I’m into it. Once I am finished, I will skip ahead to one of her newer programs or jump onto what she is offering ‘live’ (they drop a new workout at 5 am daily). The benefit of doing older programs through is that you can see what is coming; in order to get calendar of the new releases you have to pay ($8 for the month’s calendar or $30/month for subscription to her “Sydney Squad” which offers additional resources + support).
Anyway, so there we are. Importantly, I also have been cleaning up my eating habits (ie, eliminating extra carb-y snacks, sadly waving daily ice cream goodbye). Feeling out of shape NEVER helps my mood so I think making an effort in these areas is worth it.
LINK: Short 10 minute podcast from The Indicator from Planet Money on Digital Dependency (ie, phone addiction). Interesting! And a preview for tomorrow’s post.